People who indulge in self-pity usually walk around with a chip on their shoulder. They are in a constant bad mood, feeling sorry for themselves, believing the world has done them wrong. When in reality they are only victims to their own wallowing in unnecessary self-pity.
Everything that happens to you is simply a result of an action you took or did not take yesterday or last year. Everyday I log into Social Media only to see post after post of people drowning and wallowing in self-pity.
I want so badly to comment and say something like “Grow up!” But I don’t do drama so I just keep on scrolling. It used to break my heart to see people hurting. But not so much anymore.
If you are a wallower then please don’t take offense to this post but instead use it to become better and stop wallowing in self-pity. You are doing nothing except making yourself miserable. And most likely the people around you.
If you know someone who is wallowing in self-pity then you are the one I feel sorry for. Not them. People need to realize that we can have anything in life we want. As long as you A. help enough other people get what they want – Zig Ziglar and B. trust God.
It’s really that simple.
Stop Wallowing In Your Own Self-Pity
Wallowing in self-pity will get you no where in life! Well I take that back. It will bring more of what you don’t want into your reality.
You get what you focus on most. There are many verses through out the Bible on focus but this one particular sticks out to me:
As someone thinks within himself, so he is.
When you believe the things you tell yourself those very things become your reality. And everyone around you begins to feel and think the exact same way about you.
“I want to do this but….” Stop making excuses.
If you can’t find a better paying job it is because you are either not trying hard enough or you haven’t done anything to gain the skills necessary.
Can’t get approved for a loan to buy a house? Well what have you done to better your credit score?
Tired of feeling sad and worthless? Have you tried surrounding yourself with fellow Christians? Have you 100% put your trust in God’s hands?
Are you sick or depressed? Have the doctors suggested you do something but you refuse? Well don’t expect anyone to feel sorry for you. The answer has been given to you. You just decided not to take action.
The same goes for every single mishap that could possibly happen in life. From a car breaking down to someone passing away.
Somethings we can change and others we have no control over. For the things we have no control over why waste your life away in self-pity when there is nothing you can do about it? Seriously!
Just stop wallowing in self-pity especially if you can do something about it! And if you can’t let it go and move on.
I Don’t Feel Sorry For People Who Indulge In Self-Pity
There was a time in my own life when I too was a wallowing in self-pity kind of person. I blamed the world for everything.
God was to blame a lot as well. At least in my eyes.
I felt like I was entitled to things like a good job. After all I worked so hard for my Bachelors Degree. I didn’t deserve to be stuck in a minimum wage job when I had an education. Right?
Driving an old car was not on my agenda and living in my parents basement, ha! That definitely was not on my to do list!
If only I knew back then, when I sat on the floor crying and screaming to God about my problems, what I know now, I would be so much further in life.
Honestly, though I don’t think I would change a thing. Well I would have never married my second husband because I really just don’t like that man. Just being honest.
Besides not being a twice divorced Christian I wouldn’t change a thing. Otherwise I wouldn’t be the person I am today.
For this very reason I don’t feel sorry others who are wallowing in self-pity. You can literally change your thoughts and change your life!
And God is right there to help you. You just have to look for Him with your heart.
Once I found God and I mean truly found Him things changed for me. And I’m not talking just materialistically I’m talking spiritually too. Yes, God has blessed me many times over these past couple years with material things. But that’s all they are are material things.
It’s the relationship I built with Jesus that has really changed my life. I do my best to focus on Him now and not myself and my problems.
After all if I can’t change it why wallow in self-pity? And if I can change it well then you had better bet I am going to do something about it!