In an instance life can get away from us. This is why dating your spouse should be a priority. Do you find yourself alone with your husband talking about the kids, work, or even household tasks?
The other day I was walking into Walmart when I couldn’t help but notice an older gentleman who appeared to be in his late 70’s maybe early 80’s. A smile crossed my face as I watched him grab a hold of his wife’s hand as they walked out into the parking lot.
In that moment I wondered if he dated his wife all these years. They looked like they would be inseparable. His body language alone showed that he deeply cared for her.
Dating your spouse can have so many benefits. Too often I see married couples bicker at one another. In most cases they can’t even stand to be around each other.
Other times, not very often, I see older couples who are so deeply in love just like the couple at Walmart. And I think to myself I want us to be them when we grow old.
When I married my second husband, yes I am a twice divorced Christian, I could barely stand to be around him. He got under my skin in ways I didn’t even know was possible.
Once we won a trip and I was super excited until he said it would be just the two of us and we couldn’t take the kids. I cringed at the thought of being alone with him.
Of-course, that alone should have been a red flag in the very beginning when we were dating. If you cringe at the thought of being alone with someone you’re dating then don’t marry them.
I have been married for two years to my now husband and together for three. The relationship I have with him is so different than any other relationship I have ever had.
When we aren’t together I actually miss him and I look forward to time alone with him. Why because we made the decision early on to date one another for life.
How do you date your husband?
How do you date your husband? Honestly, it’s simple and can be a lot of fun. Think about things you both love to do and make time for those things.
Some of the things me and my husband love to do are fish, kayak, camp, and hunt. We do these things together.
It is important to be with someone who enjoys some of the same things you do. I often joke that I was born and raised on a fish bank.
When I met my husband I was head over heels in love with him when he told me he loves to fish too. Kayaking was something that we both always wanted to do. So when we were dating we bought kayaks and have been kayaking together every since.
Hunting was something that came after we were married. Apparently I had always had a Hunter’s Heart but it took my husband to bring it out.
Another way we date each other is we turn errands into dates. Instead of one of us doing the grocery shopping we go together.
We even pay bills together. Often it is just the two of us because our kids hate grocery shopping. I actually like it this way. It’s nice having adult conversations every once in a while without the kids constantly interrupting or butting in.
It is important to keep an open mind when dating your spouse.
a. 6 Tips – How To Date Your spouse
- Schedule Date Nights
- Get Creative ( go camping, to the zoo, or even window shopping )
- Turn errands into Dates
- Workout together if that is your thing
- Plan monthly dates or weekly dates
- Plan your conversation
Importance of Dating Your Spouse
Importance of dating your spouse fuels the fire and keeps it alive and burning. You grow closer to one another in a way that bonds you the way God intended.
Your communication, happiness, and even sexual satisfaction will be three times higher than couples who don’t date.
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Dating your spouse can cause you to fall deeper in love with one another. You will also learn new things that you never knew before.
Marriage takes work and I believe this is where a lot of marriages fail. However this is exactly why dating your spouse is so important. After all it is way cheaper than paying for marriage counseling.
Pure Desire has a great article on this topic I think you may enjoy after reading this post.
Never Stop Dating Your Spouse
No matter how long you been together never stop dating your spouse. Never.
Dating your spouse will remind you why you fell in love with them in the first place.
Did you know you can love someone but not like them? It’s true. And dating your husband will help you to like him not just love him.
Not only will you build better communication but you will have a deeper connection.
My husband and I often think a lot a like. Yet we are opposite attracts.
It is actually mind blowing to me sometimes how we think so much alike yet we are so different.
I believe dating has a lot to do with this. We have become so much like that I can be thinking about something and my husband will act on it or bring it up later that day.
Another reason to never stop dating your spouse is because well it can be fun! My husband and I have a lot of fun when we are together.
Laughter is good for the soul and heart.
Importance of Date Night for Married Couples
Sex is something that gets pushed aside more often than we want to admit as married couples. For my husband and I we have to sometimes schedule sex in just like we schedule date nights.
Because our work schedules don’t align with one another we are always tired and worn out. Sometimes scheduling a night just for some love making is a must and can also count as a date night.
God intended for married couples to enjoy sex and intimacy. This is another importance of date night for married couples. To kindle the fire and keep it burning.
One thing I will never have to worry about is my husband cheating on me. With both my ex-husbands this was always a thought that crossed my mind on a daily basis.
Fortunately, I don’t have to worry about it with my now husband. Because we date one another I have a sense of security that I never had before.
In fact, a day doesn’t go by that he doesn’t tell me I’m pretty or he loves me. Sometimes he tells me several times a day!
Whether you admit it or not we all long for a love like this. We all want to feel loved and needed. Even introverts like myself.
Dating your spouse gives you a feeling of accomplishment and appreciation.
How often should a married couple have a date night?
How often should a married couple have a date night? Honestly, I think this is different for everyone.
For me and my husband we try to date at least once or twice a week. Although that may sound like a lot, hear me out.
Of-course, life gets in the way and our jobs don’t always allow us to be off on the same days but we somehow we manage to always fit a date night or date day in.
Tuesdays are my short days and my husband often gets off early as well. We take advantage of having several hours to ourselves before my son gets home from school, and we go to the range.
Archery is something we both love to do as well as shooting our guns. Since we have a membership to our local Gun Club we only have to buy ammo when we go.
On most occasions though we shoot our Bows which cost nothing because we already have arrows.
See, you can literally take anything and make a date night or date day out of it.
What are some things you and your spouse love to do? What are somethings you can do that cost next to nothing?
Dating your spouse has never been more fun. So get out there and date your spouse like never before!