Finding Christian singles is a tough task in the real world. It is nothing like the Hallmark Channel where you go home for the Holidays and “BAM” you in love with a Prince. In fact it almost seems like all the good ones are taken.
So how do you know which of the people you contact each day has a Christian heart? After all there are plenty of good people around who don’t follow the Christian faith.
For many Christians, it’s important to date, and especially marry, people who share their beliefs. So for personal relationships, they would like to find other Christians.
That’s why many go online to find other Christian singles after they failed to find someone in church.
Going online is a great way to meet others. It makes the searching part of the task so much easier, sometimes. You can find Christian websites that cater to those seeking Christians for friendship and dating.
This saves you most of the awkward experiences. But you still have to be cautious.
Just because someone writes on their profile they are a Christian doesn’t mean they really are. And just because your on a Christian Dating site also does not mean they are Christian.
There are wolves in sheep’s clothing on Christian Dating sites just like anywhere else. I know, I fell victim to what they call “catfish.”
Online Dating And Christian Dating Sites
You may not know this but online dating and Christian Dating sites are all the same. Online dating is online dating regardless of what site you on.
It doesn’t matter where you go, in the world, or online there will always be a wolf lurking around in sheep’s clothing. This is something I know all to well from my own experience.
Just because someone says they are Christian on their profile does not mean they are. The same goes for Christian Dating sites. You don’t have to prove your Faith to get on those sites.
In fact some are free and some cost but you easily type in anything your heart desires. Of course, there is a name for these kinds of people and what they do. It is called “catfishing.”
Catfishing is when someone lures someone else with lies and a fake identity.
5 Things To Do When Setting Up Your Profile
- Use an Up To Date picture – last thing you want to do is be the catfisher!
- Be 100% Honest About Your Faith up front – if you don’t believe in sex before marriage make that clear in your profile. It calls for less hassle and heartache later down the road.
- Hobbies – be honest about your hobbies. If your a couch potato then admit it! Do not be ashamed of who you are. Last thing you want is someone trying to change you.
- Be Clear – What do You expect / what You are looking for dating, marriage and kids, etc.
- Meeting Up – Assuming the conversation is good you should both agree to meet up in public with in 1 week. If for any reason the other party declines this is a RED FLAG!
My Own Catfish Confession
When I started dating a few years ago I wish someone would have gave me this same advice. I used an up to date picture and I was clear on what I wanted along with my Faith.
However, I wasn’t so clear on what I would allow and wouldn’t allow when it came to meeting up and what I was looking for in return.
It was very important to me that the guy I met would also be a Christian. But I didn’t really push the issue because I was too scared I may push a great guy away.
I just assumed because their profile said Christian they were indeed a Christian. This is not always the case. I found out after meeting 2 guys that they were absolutely in no way Christians.
One of the men told me that he was raised in church but hasn’t been since he left home, 13 years ago. The other guy told me he was a Christian yet he drank and cursed like a sailor and was very arrogant.
Then there was Todd. I can call him Todd because Todd wasn’t even real! Yes you read that right.
My relationship with Todd went on for 3 months. Something I am NOT proud of. In fact I was really embarrassed that I even allowed the relationship to go on that long.
Todd was everything I wanted in a man.
He was sweet, had a great job. Wanted to get married and live a good Christian life. The only problem was Todd wasn’t real.
We talked on the phone for 3 months. He fed me full of hopes, dreams, lies, and deceit. Every time it came time to meet up he would suddenly have some kind of a family emergency.
Oh! Did I mention he was a Christian? And his dad was a Preacher man? Yep. Like I said it was like he played on my emotions feeding me exactly what I wanted.
This is the exact reason we as Christians need to be aware when dating both online and off. Anyone can say they are a Christian. But we all know actions speak louder than words. Watch out for the wolf in sheep’s clothing.
Not every one is who they say they are. After all bad things do happen to good people. It’s just how the world works.
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