Being a mom isn’t easy but being a Christian mom is sometimes, lets face it, exhausting. Christians are expected to live up to some pretty high standards and when you are a Christian Mom or even a Dad things just seem to be a little bit harder.
Not only do we have the devil on our back trying to use our children at his command, but we have the whole world watching us. At least that is what Satan wants us to believe.
I have never been one to say “The Devil made me do it.” But I will be the first to tell you he does in deed plant thoughts in our mind. He also uses our children every chance he gets. Just turn the news on and you will find evidence of this.
Everyday is a battle when you are Christian. Especially a Christian Mom. As parents we want the best for our children.
I was reading a Blog Post the other day by Marisa at Called To Mothering titled 6 MYTHS CHRISTIAN MOMS BELIEVE ( <– click the link to read the post). Her post made me realize just how hard it is to be a Christian Mom. And just how much the devil attacks us on a daily basis.
5 Reasons Being A Christian Mom Is Hard
Before I list the 5 reasons why being a Christian Mom is hard I need you to understand that I am human. We all have our faults. Some of us more than others.
I think too often especially in church we hide what really goes on at home; behind closed doors. It is like we can’t even turn to the people we are supposed to trust most in life, due to the fear of judgment.
At least that is how I feel. Here are the 5 reasons I believe being a Christian Mom is hard:
- I don’t always love spending time with my kids
- I lose my patience more than I care to admit
- I spank my children (child – the other one is grown and I would never lay a hand on my step daughter) sometimes out of anger and not love
- I let my child get away with things I shouldn’t just to avoid an argument or tantrum
- I sometimes judge other parents
We’re Not All A Commercial Mom
Have you ever seen that Emgality commercial? The one where the mom has a migraine and makes the rest of us moms look bad. I mean really bad. Seriously, who has a migraine and still plays Princess and Pirates?
That commercial alone makes me feel like a horrible mom. What makes it even worse is the fact that my child is into video games and doesn’t like much of the things I do. Such as archery, hunting, kayaking, and fishing (at least not when it is hot out).
Not to mention I currently work full time and then I come home work on my Blog, cook, clean up, and do whatever laundry needs to be done. During the school year we have the H-word. You know, HOMEWORK. Ugh.
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Am I the only parent that despises homework?
My husband helps whenever possible but this time of year he sometimes doesn’t get home until almost 8 o’clock at night.
I’m often exhausted before dinner is even done. So, no, I don’t always feel like spending time with my kids. Don’t get me wrong I absolutely adore and love my children. But more days than not I just want some Mom time.
However, I refuse to be all work and no play. So, I am buying me and the kids season passes to a nearby water park! I figure this way I can spend some quality time with my kids doing something they love to do.
On a more serious note I really need to work on this. I barely have time to do my Daily Devotion which means I never have time to do a Daily Devotion with my child. Let alone read the Bible with him. I feel super guilty, trust me.
Patience Is A Virtue
I lose my patience more than I would like to admit. This is something I am working on.
My husband has been a huge help in this area. He has taught me to walk away when I am frustrated or getting frustrated.
I know there is a huge debate on whether to spank your children or not. I personally believe that every child is different and what works for one may not work for the other.
For my son, spanking seemed to be the only thing that worked. That is until he got older. Now he just laughs at me (he is 10 and almost taller than me).
Thankfully I’m not raising a Pharisee and spanking hasn’t happened in a long time. And yes, I have spanked my children out of anger a few times and not out of love.
I have found that if I stay calm he too is more likely to stay calm. I used to get so upset over little things and just yell for no reason. There are times I yell at the dog and accidentally call him my sons name.
I think we have all been there. Going through all the kids and pets names before you get to the one you want.
The Devil would have parties and I was the host. – me
Christian Moms Are Human Too
No child is perfect. Not even the sweet little girl you see on Sunday morning wearing her Sunday Best. Or the sweet little boy who held the door open for you. Children are children and they have attitudes just like the rest of us.
Sometimes those attitudes are little demons seeping through our children’s pores.
It took me along time to realize, an entire child to be exact, that children mock their parents. If you have an attitude or treat people bad, chances are your child will too.
Treat someone with respect then your child is likely to follow. However, we are all human and we all have our days. Even our children are allowed to have a bad day every now and again.
Have you ever heard the saying “pick your battles”? Well I do just that on the bad days when I allow my child to get away with things I shouldn’t just to avoid a tantrum.
We all do it. I’m just admitting it.
Just as we all judge other parents. It can be anything from their parenting style to the way their child is dressed. Maybe we don’t do it intentionally but we still do it.
It takes much effort to control our thoughts, actions, and emotions. Especially as a Christian Mom or Dad.
We want to look “put together” to others. Godly and faithful to the outside world. Especially at Walmart.
Truth is, being a Christian Mom is Not easy. It takes patience, love, and prayer all on purpose.