Asking for help is a strength not a weakness. Yes, you read that correctly. It took me a long time to understand this. For most of my life I refused to ask for help. I thought it made me look weak.
I recently found out that I am an Outkast. Which basically means that my primary fear is that I struggle most with rejection. Or trusting other people. Apparently I reject others before they have a chance to reject me.
I think this is why it has always been so hard for me especially as a Christian to ask for help. I am very self motivated and driven to succeed at anything I put my mind to.
However, I struggle when it comes to team work. I would much rather be alone. This specifically has made it hard for me to be a part of church gatherings and ask for help. I have this mindset that I can do it alone.
The truth is we can’t do it alone. Especially as Christians. We need help and it is important that we ask for help when we need it.
This of course is something I am still working on. Especially since I haven’t been to church in sooo long. Only because I work every single Sunday and my church quit holding Sunday night service.
I want nothing more than to go back to church which is one of the biggest reasons I am working so hard to go full time with this blog. In all honesty, I think I miss the kids I used to teach most but I definitely miss being in service and worshiping Jesus!
Asking For Help Is Not A Weakness
Oh, how I hated asking for help. I would rather fail then ask for help. And believe me failing in my world is just not an option. But neither was asking for help.
I listen to a lot of podcasts while working and one of my favorite podcasts is Pastor Rick Warren’s Daily Hope. The one thing that he repeatedly says in almost every single podcast is how important it is to be a part of a small group at your church. Ugh.
Honestly, I feel like it is really God talking to me through Pastor Rick, ugh again. But I don’t want to be a part of small group! That means that I have to share about what is going on in my life with others. And I will be expected to ask for help when I need it.
This use to make feel so weak. And it still does. I know I have to get past it but how?
Getting out of my comfort zone is something I have been working a lot on lately. Doing things that scare the heck out of me. But joining or being a part of a small group that terrifies me!
What if I slip up and share too much? What if I say too much?
I am the type of person that will NOT volunteer any information (accept now on my blog) but will not lie either. If you ask me something I will tell you and sometimes I probably say too much.
Asking For Help Is A Strength
Earlier I was scouring the internet for inspiration on this topic. I came across a blog post on one of my favorite Christian Bloggers blog. It was actually a guest post by Gina M Poirier you can read the post here > Why Christians Need To Open Up About Their Struggles.
After reading the post I felt even more of an Outkast than ever before. All this time I just referred to myself as an Introvert. I mean it does sound better than an Outkast after all! The word Outkast just seems harsh.
I remember a few years ago when I was going through a rough time, a lady at church, a dear friend, said to me “Shauna, you have to ask for help.” Ugh, really?
She went on to talk about how my church family was there for a reason and how we have to ask for help sometimes. You know she was right because all my failures was rooted from me believing I could do it all.
It had gotten so bad that I wasn’t even asking God for help anymore. Sure I was going to church every Sunday and even teaching Sunday School at the time. But asking for help that was a no no!
Now I ask God for help every single morning. I ask for help to get through my day. Help in my business, and even help parenting.
Yes, parenting. Parenting can be tough sometimes specially when you are raising a child with ADD / ADHD and has ticks and anxiety.
Patience is another area I find myself asking for help in. Sometimes I have to ask for help with this several times a day! Hey, I’m human, right?
It took a lot for me to get to a point where I felt comfortable asking God for help. For so long I felt like He didn’t love me and never would.
Once I accepted that God does love me, I realized He wants to help me, and he wants to help you too!
Now, I have to work on this small group thing. This is going to be tough but I recently committed to becoming a better person, Christian, Blogger, friend, wife, and mom.