I read a post earlier that said church is a hospital for sinners and not a museum for Saints. I don’t know about you but I would never want to be portrayed as a Saint. It is hard enough being a Christian as it is, let alone a Saint.
It’s even harder being an Introvert Christian. However, it does have its advantages. And of course there are disadvantages too.
Introverts are usually shy and very quiet. This can be a disadvantage because people tend to get our shyness confused with being stuck up. The two couldn’t be any further apart.
I know this to be true because I am indeed an Introvert. It is something I have been dealing with all my life.
An advantage Introverts have is the ability take in their surroundings. We may be quiet but that doesn’t mean we aren’t listening and watching. I have heard and witnessed things that most times I wish I wouldn’t have.
Something I have noticed over the years are the things Christians struggle with yet no one wants to talk about. There are 6 struggles in particular that seem to be the most popular of all.
The 6 Christian Struggles That Have Became Hush Hush
“Hush Hush” that is how I feel about the following 6 Christian Struggles in our churches today.
- Self Doubt – the lack of confidence in oneself or abilities.
How are we supposed to have Faith if we don’t even believe in our abilities? It doesn’t help much when you share a God – Given Dream with another member only for it to be shot down. Or worse they give you that look. You know that side ways look.
- Sexuality – capacity for sexual feelings, a persons sexual orientation or preference, or sexual activity.
Lets get something clear, God makes no mistakes! If that offends you then you don’t need to keep reading. I feel as if Christians, including myself have become quiet on this topic and it needs to change.
When did it become OK for children to decide whether they are a boy or a girl? When did it become OK to be Gay and attend church as if nothing is wrong?
- Tithing – the Bible refers to Tithing as giving 10 percent of your annual earnings, produce, or possessions.
It appears that some Christians are actually pretty stingy when it comes to tithing. They are dead set on only tithing their 10% and that is all, if that.
- Addictions – the fact or condition of being addicted to a particular substance, thing, or activity.
Addictions can come in all shapes and forms. The devil is quick to use our addictions against us to act out in a sinful behavior. Addictions are often overlooked and pushed off as bad habits.
- Judgmental – having or displaying an excessively critical point of view.
It saddens my heart to say this but I honestly believe Christians are some of the most judgmental people I know, myself included. Why is it so easy for us to instantly judge someone?
- Cliques – a small group of people, with shared interests or other features in common, who spend time together and do not readily allow others to join them.
Of course, I saved the best for last. Come on we all know its true. All churches have Cliques. Some may not see a problem with this but I am sure other Introverts like myself will vouch differently. Or what about the outsiders who visit and never return?
My Own Christian Struggles
The first one is something I dealt with for a very long time. I have received that look on more than one occasion. And it wasn’t from a church member but rather family members who are also Christians.
When did it become OK to shoot someone else’s dream or goal down because you haven’t gone after your God – Given Dream? God has a plan for each of us. Some of us just choose to take action. Its a struggle though when Self Doubt creeps in.
Gay Pride has become the new norm in our society. There is actually a church in my home town that is OK with Gay’s attending and becoming members of their church. I have even heard of Gay Pastors.
Sorry, not sorry, this is wrong! We can not take the Bible and pick out what we are OK with and just leave the rest. It doesn’t work like that.
I know I will tick a lot of people off with what I am about to say but sometimes the truth hurts:
Being Gay is a choice not a genetic
I know this because I have been attracted to other women on several occasions. I personally believe its a human trait. However, it is upon us whether we act on those feelings or not.
I am happily married to my husband who I chose to be with. It is no different for someone who is gay. They just made a different decision about their Sexuality. I have a gay nephew and niece whom I love dearly. That doesn’t mean I have to agree with their choices.
My old Pastor once said that you can tell someone’s finances by looking at their Tithing Record. I believe this to be very true. Coming from someone who used to struggle and never tithed. Just make sure if you do tithe to do it with a grateful heart.
Addictions are often swept under the rug because no one wants to step on toes. Again coming from someone who once had many addictions; addictions sometimes need to be talked about.
The devil likes to use addictions against us. When you are alone and he comes stumbling in with those old thoughts of addictions it would help if we had another Christian to talk to without being judged.
Honestly, I feel as if Judgmental and Cliques go hand in hand. A few years ago I was working for a supplemental Insurance Company. I was struggling at the time, with self doubt, and one of my co-workers came up with the idea to sell Thirty-One.
Of-course I was against it and even tried to fight the idea off several times. The thing that kept coming up was “I’m sure you can sell to your close friends at church.” But the thing was I didn’t have any close friends at church. Not even one.
After a couple meetings I finally gave in and purchased the starter kit even though I knew I would never sell anything. It was like I was more alone in that moment than I was when I was at church. It was more embarrassing than anything, to not have close friends at church. or even outside of church.
Sure I had friends but it wasn’t like we called one another outside of church and hung out. So to try and sell them something was just weird. Especially since another member who was much more popular already sold Thirty-One.
Being an Introvert in a building full of Cliques is not a comfortable feeling. I just learned to deal with it over time. You can’t help but feel judged if you don’t fit into a group. But how are you supposed to feel when you don’t fit into any groups?
It was absolutely horrendous attending Church Activities. I just never felt like I belonged and still don’t.
I can’t imagine how outsiders feel when they visit a church. This is probably one of the biggest reasons most people never return. Of-course I can’t speak for everyone I can only speak for myself.
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